Life with a non-typical (or atypical) sexual desire is dangerous and stressful when in a hostile place. Regardless of its cause, when mishandled, the desire can become fuel for problems – from others, as well as resulting from our own immaturity or self-serving worldview.
At school this might include isolation, taunting, depression, addictions, heightened risk-taking, disease resulting from sexual activities, an ever-narrowing circle of friends, and an ever-narrowing perception of the world.
With adulthood, the statistics speak clearly (even for those isolated within a gay-community cultural bubble). Those engaging in atypical sexual lifestyles typically have liaisons and relationships of far greater quantity than in the heterosexual community. They are subject to far more diseases (especially those that are sexually transmitted), mental health issues that would make any other sub-culture take a serious look at itself, and earlier death.
Homosexuality has its own problems, even without cultural challenges. However, as much as part of me would like Australian culture to have a more warm and embracing culture, burning the floorboards to create warmth is simply stupid! This is what same-sex marriage does,
The sexual and relational health of our culture and future generations now hangs in the balance. Sometimes you just can’t have everything you want!!
Do These Sound Like Good Goals?
My hope is that some day those who are erotically diverse or atypical (as I am) can live without hate and persecution – either being directed at us, or coming from us.
Does this sound like a good goal?
My desire is for the processes of sexual development to be better understood – especially by parents, politicians and our many culture shapers. Attractions are significantly woven into our make-up by forces beyond our control and the mistakes of our youth. Where in a climate of honesty and compassion, responsible limits and laws, we could all somehow live without attacking each other. There is a sensitive tension here, but one best achieved with the lights on.
The family unit MUST be protected as the core building block of society – and this includes wherever possible, a relatively healthy father and mother presence – and ideally this should be the biological parents. Children should experience the optimum possibility of life-giving family stability, as well as the healthy and critically important contributions of both natural parents (or at the very least, both gender’s healthy contributions).
Does this make sense?
Australians could make a greater effort to collaborate, accomodate and cooperate – within legal and ethical limits. Despite all our individual weaknesses (sexual or otherwise) the very humility of knowing our weaknesses can be the glue that draws us together. It is behaviours like pride, anger and a desire for control that cause division.
The remarkable cohesion we already have is at risk when marriage is redefined.
We could also be a culture where the truths of human development (sexual and otherwise) are honestly represented and responsibly handled. We could be a nation where even inconvenient truth and tough love are stoically provided in pursuit of a non-selfish good.
Would that be a good goal?
My desire is that we will prioritise, nurture and protect our young, so children grow up to be healthier (in every dimension) than I am now.
Surely that is worth pursuing.
Finally, it is my hope that those who have been damaged by life (in it’s many and varied assaults) would discover that there are ways of escape, find motivation and begin that journey (however long and tough it needs to be).
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Look Closely: Redefining Marriage Works Against Every Goal!
Redefining marriage is an expensive, long, vicious effort that requires extraordinary sacrifice and deceit. Yet even after all the pain and heartache, in the few nations that have surrendered to the assault, relatively few homosexuals have taken up the marriage option. Some would argue this proves ‘equality’ was never the goal anyway – it was ‘superiority’ through the power that comes with reshaping a ‘marriage equalised’ nation.
Re-shape marriage … and every other goal becomes effectively impossible.
If you would like to see the desires above achieved, leave marriage alone! Most goals require protections and freedoms to remain in place – the very ones endangered by the redefining of marriage.
I want to lay a challenge before every individual who visits this site. Not only to visit parliamentarians, but become a walking billboard of awareness for these truths and to take a more active and aware role in your child’s psycho-sexual and psycho-relational development. It is also my challenge to you to examine your own ways and in so doing you may find something you could be doing to make this world a better place.
As you invest time and willingness into this site, you will see more and more why redefining marriage is a very, very bad idea. I also hope that somehow during the journey, you will also learn compassion toward the very people we must deny. And that denial is ‘tough love’.
By A Sensible Man. 13.12.2011 Last revision on 18 February, 2012, converting original article into two and correcting significant factual error that was pointed out to me. If you find more please advise!
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