When you realize you’re in the middle of a culture war, it’s easy to forget about the people involved. Even those who oppose you are real people – with failings and complexities of life and perspective just like you (and me). They are motivated by real pains, experiences, beliefs and priorities. It is easy to forget that. When something is clearly wrong to one person, it is perhaps inevitable that ‘the perceived enemy’ will appear stupid, selfish, intolerable or hateful. But that is rarely helpful or completely true.